College is a time when students should have fun, figure out life and try to remember the previous night—definitely not a time to enter into serious life commitments such as marriage.
I am not saying every college student who has ever gotten married while still in school made a huge mistake, but the decision does seem rushed. To those who have gotten married during college and are still living in domestic bliss: congratulations on having life figured out during what is normally a crazy and stressful time. The rest of us envy you greatly.
Life is stressful enough during college. Planning out the future, managing finances and gaining footing in the trap called adulthood is hard enough. Adding another person to that equation is a feat not for the weak of heart.
I can barely manage to even keep my room clean during the week. Most of the time, there is homework thrown everywhere. Adding someone else’s homework to the already growing mound I call my bedroom floor is unimaginable.
Finances are hard to keep under control during college with the temptations of alcohol and shopping at the outlet malls constantly present. Add in books, rent and other bills that need to be paid, and college presents a financial burden hard for any student to handle. Many college students have to work more than one job to make ends meet, a fact that might put strain on any relationship because of a lack of personal time to spend together. Financial issues and lack of interaction do not exactly create a positive atmosphere for a relationship.
Being in a relationship or having a significant other is one thing. A relationship where two people can enjoy each other’s company, dream about a possible future together and have fun without getting serious too quickly is perfect for college students.
Marriage, on the other hand, brings a whole new set of concerns and responsibilities to the table. For example, going out on The Square too often can put a financial strain on the marriage, as well as sow the seed of jealousy in a partner. Additionally, if partners have too much fun one night, which is a common occurrence in college culture, spouses may resent having to constantly take care of them in sickness and in health.
By no means am I bashing the institution of marriage. Marriage is a beautiful and marvelous way to demonstrate one’s lasting love for another. That said, it is not a decision that should be taken lightly. I fight for my right to someday enjoy this same privilege, but I would never choose to get married during such a chaotic time in my life.
College is a time to make mistakes and find oneself. It is not a time when students should be constantly worrying about someone else. It is the time to change majors and then change them again. It is the time to get home at the crack of dawn and not be yelled at. It is the time to spend rent money on bottle service, to learn from and enjoy mistakes and to love every single moment of newfound freedom.
This chapter will close, and a new one will start. In the time students attend college, lessons will be learned, hopefully maturity will be reached—and only then should marriage become an option.